M's Life- Week 1: Jan 25-Feb 1
My mom and younger sister were able to be here for the first week that M was here. I can't say enough good things about their visit! They kept PK entertained during the day, did laundry and cleaning for me, and even took baby M around 4AM every morning so that I could get 2-3 hours of good sleep before he needed another feeding. It was marvelous!
This week was a bit rough for PK, as was anticipated. He had a hard time going to sleep most nights- I think because we had guests he didn't want to miss out. He would get out of his bed and lay back on the ground in front of his door and kick it. This usually lasted less than an hour and he would end up falling asleep right there, so we would go in and move him back to his bed. Honestly, I was pretty happy about this (let me explain). I knew that something was going to happen, and this was a lot better than what I was expecting. I also did want something to happen- meaning, I wanted to him to show us that he knew something big had happened, rather than completely ignoring it. So yes, the kicking was pretty annoying, but I just kept reminding myself of what he must be feeling. Nap-times were usually a bit more rough as well, but I was able to go up and help him fall asleep while my Mom or Alyssa cared for M.
This week we had 2 doctor's appointments. 1 to check M's weight- which he was gaining just fine! And another to the lactation specialist. (I may do a post all about this later- it was AWESOME!)
We worked the first week on keeping M awake to get a full feeding. Meaning, I would do whatever it took for him to not keep nodding off so that he would actually get a full feeding rather than eating for 10 minutes and wanting to nurse again in an hour. Usually putting him on the ground for a minute when he fell asleep would work, but sometimes I needed to undress him or even change his diaper. Of course there were the times when nothing I did would keep him awake, but I knew that it was important to do it if I wanted him to have a good schedule in the future.
He slept in our room this week (in the pack n' play) and got up every 2-3 hours to eat. Often he was wide awake and wanted to be held in order to go back to sleep (which meant little to no sleep for Jed and I).
(Put him in here for a second... look how tiny!)
M's Life- Weeks 2 & 3: Feb 2-Feb 18
After my mom and sister left (and several tears were shed by me), Jed was able to have 2 weeks of parental leave from work. He still had classes to go to, and he still went in to work for a few hours, but mainly he was at home helping.
PK and I went to the library this week. It was nice to get to spend time just the two of us. I was sad on the drive home (rushing to feed M) that PK was no longer my baby- that that time in my life was over. I'm so glad that I did have over 2 years with just the two of us. Those years are so precious to me. Anyways, M was crying when we walked in, and those feelings were quickly replaced by the reminded of my current situation, which is different, but still very fulfilling.
I went to church when M was 2 weeks old. Jed gave a talk in sacrament which was just the motivation I needed to get to back to church. It was really nice to be surrounded by such supportive women, and M did very well. He LOVES being held, so as long as he was in a comfortable position, he was just fine. I was also able to have a nice conversation in the mother's lounge with a new mom and it reminded me of how fond my memories are of mother's room chats with friends back in Provo. I guess that's what happens when 1/3 of church is spent feeding.
PK didn't kick his door that much these 2 weeks (that I can remember), and took a nap most days as well. I let him have some "alone" time with M also (I stood out of sight, watching.) He liked to hold a pretend car and run in up and down his brother's legs, saying "Don't worry, M" if M started crying (haha). He did have a few time outs from being too rough with his brother, but also some melt-momma's-heart moments too.
M slept in PK's room at about 12 days old. I transitioned him by having him take day time naps in that room, and after about 2 days, had him sleep over night in there as well. PK loved sharing his room, and often I could hear him saying, "Don't worry, M" if M was upset.
We had M wear a swaddler (a blanket with velcro so they can't kick out of the swaddle) and he slept so much better! He would go 4-5 hour stretches at night! I felt like a whole new person (though still pretty tired) but really hopeful for a full nights sleep in the not too distant future. I focussed on feeding him every 3 or so hours, still working on getting full feedings each time, and focussed more on keeping him awake a bit after his feedings before naps.
These 2 weeks we also spent doing some shopping (and learning more about M's personality), planning the blessing brunch, and cleaning the house in preparation for our next visitors.
(Out shopping- just nursing in the car)
(Working on projects)
(Pk and daddy)
(that's more like it)
(homemade matching PJ's)
(PK and daddy playing play-do)
M's Life-Week 4: Feb 19-Feb 25
Jed's parents were able to come to visit for a week as well. Kate did most of the cleaning while they were here, and of course kept Parker busy with books, walks, stories, and long naps (they wore this kid out!) It was sad because Jed had to work this week, so he wasn't able to spend quite as much time with them, but it was nice for me to get to know them better. We packed lunches and went and met Jed for lunch one day, and another day Kate and I shopped for a few hours. It was so nice having them here- I definitely wasn't ready to be by myself yet!
Baby M did just fine in PK's room by this week, and slept 6 hours two nights in a row! I really credit this to working on his schedule from the get go, the swaddler, and his own need for sleep (he's like his momma!) PK kicked his door a bit this week too, but Grandma and Grandpa wore him out so much, that naps and bedtime came a lot quicker than before.
The Saturday of their visit, some of my family came to visit because they were staying in a hotel until the baby blessing the next day. None of them had seen M yet, so it was nice to continue to show him off!
The next day was the baby blessing, and it was the perfect day. The morning wasn't rushed, we had all slept well, and getting ready went pretty efficiently. Kate, Eric, and PK went ahead to the church to save everybody seats, and I was able to get myself ready, feed M, and then get M all ready.
The blessing itself was given by Jedediah, and was so perfect. I was overwhelmed by the feeling of gratitude for my sweet little family, for the family that was there, and for the family that wasn't. After sacrament meeting, we took some family photos and then went back for a brunch.
Everything went exactly how I imagined, and it was so nice to have so many loved ones here.
From throughout the week:
("Grammer" & PK)
(M with a new blanket from Grandma)
(Play-dough with "Gramper")
(Everyone at the blessing)
(Headed home after church)
(Oma with M)
(Look how cute!)
(Grandma with M)
(Our family of 4)
(Gramper with M)
(Happy 1 month!)
(My job is pretty awesome.)
The first month of baby M's life was a crazy one! So much happened! At his one month check up he weighed 10 lbs 8 ounces (HOLY COW!!) and was 22.5 inches long. I can't believe he's already a month old. Time has gone by so fast- I'm just so grateful for all the help we've received- it wouldn't have been the same without it, that's for sure.